Somewhere amid all these games, we workers have come to see ourselves, rather than our employers, as the cause of our high-stress working lives. According to a recent interview with Arlie Hochschild, author of The Time Bind: When Work Becomes Home and Home Becomes Work in Mother Jones, workers buy into the team-pressure scenario created by employers. "They internalize the speedup; they think their hurry is due to their work ethic." How do bosses do it? Is it magic? Hochschild says they've taken their cues from female relationships. "Corporate engineers have looked at how women are with each other, borrowing the best tips from female neighborhood culture and then transporting them back into the bosom of capitalism. They've feminized capitalism. You have to marvel at such corporate engineering, and then you have to watch it like a hawk because it's stealing family time away from families."